Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect at 6-9 months

Originally published on March 9, 2016

Revised October 5, 2024 

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

Wondering what breastfeeding/chestfeeding look like when your baby is 6-9 months? As our little ones continue to grow physically {begin to roll over, sit up, crawl} and developmentally {sleep longer stretches at night and interact more with the world around them}, we notice the impact of these changes on their feeding patterns.

In this blog series, Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect and How to Adjust, we will answer some of the most common questions and concerns we hear from parents, as they navigate breastfeeding/chestfeeding a 6-9 month old. What are some normal behaviors to expect from a baby this age and how can you tell if there’s a challenge that you should seek lactation support for?

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges. 

SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

What does breastfeeding/chestfeeding look like in months 6-9?

How often should a baby be breastfeeding and how long should feedings take?

At 6-9 months, breastmilk is still a vital source of nutrition, even as your baby starts to explore solid foods. The frequency and length of breastfeeding/chestfeeding sessions may vary depending on your baby’s appetite and routine, but here are some general guidelines:

• Breastfeeding frequency: Typically, babies breastfeed/chestfeed around 5-6 times per day at this stage, with some babies still nursing in the middle of the night, as well. 

• Duration of feedings: Babies at this age can be very effective at removing a lot of milk in a very short period of time.  Each nursing session may last anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes (on average), depending on your baby’s efficiency, interest, and when they last fed. 

• Feeding positions: As your baby becomes increasingly mobile, you may notice that they may want to move from the cradle hold to sitting or standing or some variety of nursing gymnastics.  Handing your baby something soft or crinkly to play with while nursing may help them focus and stay in one position until they are finished feeding.

My baby is eating solid food now, how does this impact our breastfeeding/chestfeeding routine?

Introducing solid foods to your baby’s diet can shift your breastfeeding/chestfeeding routine, but your milk continues to be the main source of nutrition. Here’s how solids may impact your feeding routine and how to protect your milk supply in the process:

• Complementary, not replacement: Solids are meant to complement your milk at this stage, not replace it. Continue to breastfeed/chestfeed (or offer a bottle of your pumped milk) before solid meals to maintain milk intake.

• Keep serving sizes of solid foods small: The goal for solids between 6-9 months is to familiarize your baby with different tastes and textures, while also developing hand-eye coordination, as your little one learns to self-feed.  Keeping serving sizes small will ensure that your baby will not fill up on solids and continues to take around 30oz a day of your milk by breastfeeding and/or bottle. 

Ensuring milk production: To keep your milk supply stable, continue breastfeeding/chestfeeding on demand and ensure regular milk removal through nursing or pumping.

How much weight should my baby be gaining at this age?

After six months of age, normal weight gain for a breastfed/chestfed baby is 2-3oz per week. Weight gain slows during this time as babies begin to roll over, scoot, crawl, and walk, burning more calories by being more active throughout the day. If you are ever concerned about your baby’s weight gain patterns, you can reference theWHO growth charts, which were created specifically for breastfed/chestfed infants.

My baby keeps biting me while breastfeeding/chestfeeding.  What can I do to stop this?

If your baby is biting while breastfeeding/chestfeeding, it can be painful, but there are ways to gently prevent and correct this behavior. Here are some tips to help stop biting during feedings:

• Watch for signs: Pay attention to cues that your baby may be done feeding or about to bite, such as decreasing swallows, adjusting their latch, or giving you a smirk like they are about to do something to get your attention. If you see one of these signs, immediately unlatch your baby before they have an opportunity to sink their teeth into you.

• End the feeding calmly: If your baby bites, immediately stop the feeding and calmly but firmly say "no biting" or "that hurts." This helps your baby understand the connection between biting and the end of feeding.

• Offer alternatives: Babies may bite when teething or exploring new sensations. Offer a cold teething toy or a chilled cloth before or after nursing to soothe sore gums.

• Stay consistent: Respond the same way each time your baby bites, using calm but firm guidance. With repetition, your baby will begin to understand that biting interrupts feeding.

If you still have questions about breastfeeding/chestfeeding or offering solids to your 6-9 month old, we are just a consult away!

As your baby continues to grow and develop, their feeding patterns will naturally change, but navigating these transitions doesn't have to be stressful. Whether you're adjusting to a new breastfeeding/chestfeeding schedule, introducing solids, or dealing with challenges like biting, it's important to feel confident in your approach. If you have further questions or concerns about feeding your 6-9 month old, or need guidance on maintaining your milk supply, the San Diego Breastfeeding Center is here to help. Book a one-on-one appointment with one of our lactation consultants today for personalized support tailored to you and your baby’s needs.

SDBFC is committed to providing high-quality lactation and functional nutrition consultations to parents in San Diego and beyond. Explore our postpartum, prenatal, and functional nutrition consultations, take a breastfeeding class or attend a workshop.

About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

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Age-appropriate Portions for Toddlers (and Moms)

This post is by Rachel Rothman, MS, RD, and is the third post in the three-part blog series about introducing solids to your little one.  Rachel is a mom to a toddler, a pediatric dietitian and instructor of “Introduction to Solids” and “Nutrition for Toddlers and Preschoolers” at the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Join us for the next Nutrition for Toddlers and Preschoolers class on October 29th at 10:00am.  More information and registration can be found here.

In case you missed it, I discussed the feeding relationship in my previous two posts, and these may be summarized using the division of responsibility. Parents are responsible for the “what, when, and where of feeding; children are responsible for the how much and whether of eating” [1].  In this third post we discuss age appropriate serving sizes – however, as with all nutrition advice, sustainably learning the behaviors associated with this division of responsibility will be as important, if not more influential, than simply choosing specific serving size, as all of our young ones progress at slightly different paces and individual ways.

Most of the food we eat- and the nutrient measurements we rely on – use the idea of serving sizes. But what does a serving look like?

Adults struggle with this because it’s hard to learn at home, and when we eat out, it’s nearly impossible to get consistent feedback.  As children, most parents did not learn to react this way, and an age of abundant and convenient food has limited the effects of our natural impulses.  

When we feed our children, many parents second-guess themselves and their children’s eating behaviors.  Is my child eating enough?  Is my child eating too much?  Here are some helpful guidelines when it comes to your children and serving sizes, starting from the beginning, when first introducing solids.

Tips and guidelines when thinking about the appropriate serving size for your infant and toddler:

- Around 6-7 months, as your baby is first starting solids, it’s important to remember serving sizes are very small.  If you are offering purees, you will want to start by offering 1-2 teaspoons, keeping in mind initially your baby may not take more than a small taste.  You will most likely be advancing to 1-3 tablespoons as your baby moves toward 7-8 months.

- From 6 months to around 1 year, breast milk or a breastmilk substitute should still make up the majority of your baby’s calorie intake.  Offer breast milk or a breastmilk substitute before solids, especially when starting out. 

- All babies are different.  Some babies love solids right off the bat and may take more than 2-3 tablespoons.  That’s okay!  It may take other babies some time to begin their solid intake and they may refuse for a while.  That’s okay, too! The important thing is to continue to offer solids, but let your child decide whether he/she wants to eat.

A typical toddler breakfast: 2-3 tablespoons of yogurt, 1/4 cup fruit and 2-3 small pancakes (and it’s okay if they don’t finish the whole thing!).

-Around 8-11 months your baby continues to grow, so does his/her appetite.  Solid intake may increase, but not by much.  A full day’s worth of solids might be: ¼ cup of fruit, ¼ cup vegetables, 1-3 tablespoons protein and ¼ cup whole grains.  A serving of vegetables, however, may still be closer to 2-3 tablespoons.  

- After one year of age, baby’s growth slows (most babies triple their birth weight over the first year!).  With a decrease in growth rate may also come a decrease in appetite.  Do not be alarmed if intake decreases after one year of age.  It’s most important to monitor your baby’s weight gain and growth. 

Snacks and lunch packed for daycare: 1/2 peanut butter and jelly sandwich, blueberries, oat and spinach muffin, string cheese and nectarine slices.

Additionally, after one year of age, your toddler may be eating more meals and snacks throughout the day.  When thinking about meals and snacks to serve, try to offer something from each food group.  Meals should consist of a fruit or vegetable, carbohydrate and protein, while a snack might consist of a fruit and vegetable and a carbohydrate. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box and try new things.   One of my daughter’s favorite on the go snacks is a mix of chick peas and green peas;  a combination of protein and carbohydrates with a healthy mix of vitamins and minerals.  

Stay positive! Picky eating behaviors often develop during this time and can persist as a phase many healthy kids go through.  If you stay positive and dedicated to offering a broad variety of healthy, whole foods, you have the best chance of continuing to nourish your little one while accommodating their tastes and preferences.

To learn more about introducing solids to your little one, join me at the SDBFC in one of my Introduction to Solidsor Nutrition for Toddlers and Preschoolers classes.  More information can be found here.

[1] Satter, Ellen M.,  Child of Mine: Feeding With Love and Good Sense, Bull Publishing Company; Revised edition (March 1, 2000) http://www.amazon.com/Child-Mine-Feeding-Revised-Updated/dp/0923521518 

Rachel Rothman, MS, RD is a mom, pediatric dietitian, and instructor at the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  She lives in San Diego with her husband Ben and daughter Sydney. 

How to Help Your Little One Feel Full with Solids

This post is by Rachel Rothman, MS, RD, and is the second post of a three-part series about introducing solids to your little one.  Rachel is a mom to a toddler and a pediatric dietitian. Rachel is the instructor of "Toddler Nutrition" and “Introduction to Solids” classes at the San Diego Breastfeeding Center. Join us for the next Toddler Nutrition class on October 29th at 10:00am.  More information and registration can be found here.

In my previous post, I addressed a parent’s responsibilities for the “when” (setting meal time) and the “what” (the food to be served) of feeding.  This approach is generally referred to as the feeding relationship: Parents are responsible for the “what, when, and where of feeding; children are responsible for the how much and whether of eating” [1].   The relationship is between parent and child, and between the child and the food they eat.  Now that we’ve established the parent’s responsibilities, we can move to the child’s responsibilities – whether to eat, and how much to eat.  

By controlling the WHAT, parents introduce foods, and should be actively monitoring how children respond. Getting started is fairly simple: you offer the food, and your child decides how much and WHETHER they want to eat it.  Yep, that’s it.  

However, this will surely bring a challenge (and for some, the harder obstacle to overcome) to be okay with how much and whether your child accepts the food.  

 

Start Small

When introducing solids to your little ones, starting small is essential to help him learn to physically accept solid food and learn to taste, chew, and swallow effectively.  If you choose to start by offering purees, offer a small amount of a pureed food to your little one.  If the child opens his/her mouth toward the spoon, help guide the food into his/her mouth.  If the child turns away from the spoon, trust his/her instincts that he/she does not want that food or is simply not ready.   If you choose to use the baby led weaning approach, start by placing food in front of your child on his/her high chair tray or the table. Trust that your baby knows what he/she needs.  And keep in mind, especially when starting out, breast milk or a breastmilk substitute will make up the majority of your little one’s calories and nutrition until he/she is close to a year old.  Your job is to help them learn how to eat.  You are letting them know they can choose how much and whether they would like to eat.  

When you move beyond purees and toward more complex foods, offered more frequently, this approach can, and often will, get more challenging.   As your child gets older and enters toddlerhood less of his/her nutrition may come from breast milk or a breastmilk substitute.  However, this is when it is more important than ever to keep in mind your child’s ability to self regulate.  As you offer more food at a given meal, you’ll be looking for signs that your child feels hungry.  That feeling (rather than a specific amount of food) helps your child to learn appropriate eating habits.

 

Experiencing Hunger and Feeling Full

Allow your child to experience the physical and cognitive effects of being hungry before eating - his/her young body’s regulatory reflexes come from feeling hungry and then knowing when he/she full.  

Research shows that children who are taught in this manner develop positive food attitudes, interest in eating a variety of foods, an intuitive sense of how much to eat, and long term skills for healthy eating and meal planning.[2]

There are a few things you can do to encourage your child to feel hungry and full, such as only offering a meal or snack every 2-3 hours (allow your child to feel hunger and sensation of fullness) and only offering water in between meals (rather than juice or sugary beverages).  

Eat Meals Together

Sit and have meals with your child, as time allows, and eat the same foods as they eat.  Not only will you be in a better position to monitor your baby’s preferences, but you can encourage her choices and ease her frustrations through words and sounds.  When your child tries a new food or enjoys an old favorite, you can show him that his choices matter to you.  Another benefit is cognitive: take the opportunity to teach your child the names of the foods he’s eating!

Lots of Exposure to the Same Foods

Keep in mind it can take up to 20 exposures of a new food before a child accepts it.  This is true when introducing solids to an infant as well as more complex foods to a toddler.  Before you rule out a food and dismiss your child as disliking it, keep offering it.  Chances are, after enough exposures, your child may have a change of heart.   While some degree of pickiness is normal, if you feel concerned with your child’s feeding habits, consult your pediatrician or a registered dietitian.

With the principles above, you’ll be on your way to raising a healthy eater!  Stay tuned for our next post, “Age-appropriate portions”.  If you’d like to keep exploring this topic with us, we’d love to see you in our next  Introduction to Solids class.

[1] Satter, Ellen M.,  Child of Mine: Feeding With Love and Good Sense, Bull Publishing Company; Revised edition (March 1, 2000) http://www.amazon.com/Child-Mine-Feeding-Revised-Updated/dp/0923521518

[2] Satter, “Eating Competence: Definition and Evidence for the Satter Eating Competence Model” Journal of Nutrition Education and Behavior ● Volume 39, Number 5S, September/October 2007  http://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/cms-assets/documents/101150-596171.ecdefandev.pdf

Rachel Rothman, MS, RD is a mom, pediatric dietitian, and instructor at the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  She lives in San Diego with her husband, Ben, and daughter, Sydney.  You can contact Rachel here.