I’ve Had My Baby - Now What?: Breastfeeding During the First Week

Originally published on Jan 24, 2014; Revised Feb 22, 2025

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

Welcome to our new series, I’ve Had My Baby - Now What?  This is a guide with basic information to help you navigate the first days, weeks, and months of chest/breastfeeding your new baby.  

Today we would like to talk about that first week after your baby has arrived.  Chest/breastfeeding can often seem overwhelming and  unfamiliar.  New parents often receive a *huge* amount of differing advice from many well-intentioned people, which can be incredibly confusing and discouraging.  Below is a quick guideline to what “normal” chest/breastfeeding looks like, as well as some examples of when things aren’t going as they should and when you might want to seek help.

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges.  SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

How often should my new baby be eating and how long should each feeding take?

A newborn needs to feed 8 or more times in 24 hours.  It’s especially important in the early days to feed your baby “on demand”, or whenever the baby shows signs of hunger, regardless of when baby ate last.  If your baby is not asking to eat every 2-3 hours, or 8 or more times in 24 hours, it is important to wake the baby to feed him/her, until they have regained their birth weight.  A feeding session typically takes approximately 30-45 minutes, and both breasts should be offered during this time.  It’s important to keep the baby actively feeding during those 30-45 minutes.

How do I know my baby is getting enough milk?

A great way to be sure baby is getting enough breastmilk is to keep a physical log of all feedings (start time and length), as well as all pees and poops. A baby who is taking enough milk will be feeding 8 or more times in 24 hours, for 30-45 minutes, and having 1 pee diaper and 1 poop diaper per day of life, until day 5.  For example, on day 1, baby should be having 1 pee and 1 poop diaper, day 2, 2 of each, etc.  After day 5, baby should be having 5 or so of each per day.  A baby who is getting enough should be satisfied for approximately an hour or two after feeding.  However, most babies will cluster feed for a 4-5 hour period during the day, when they may want to eat more frequently.  This is normal baby behavior!

How much milk does my baby actually need?

A baby needs very little milk per feeding during their first few days of life.  This is because they’re born full of meconium, which are those first few poops.  This is a perfect fit for you, as your first milk, colostrum, is low in volume.  The small amount you make is just the right amount for your baby.  The amount your baby needs slowly increases, and as your milk makes the transition from the low volume colostrum, to the higher volume mature milk between day 3 and day 5, your baby’s needs go up as well.  Nature works beautifully!

I need to supplement my baby, what are my options?

Sometimes, a baby may need to be supplemented with additional milk.  There are many reasons for this - a baby has jaundice,  is not latching well, there is a delay in the parent’s milk “coming in”, etc.  When supplementation is necessary, it’s important to remember that you can use your own pumped milk.  If you aren’t able to pump the amount you need, you can use donor milk instead.  Formula is the last resort option.  There are various methods to supplement your baby as well.  You can supplement your baby at your chest/breast using a supplemental nursing system, you can finger feed your baby, or cup/spoon feed your baby.  A slow flow bottle is always an option as well and a lactation consultant can show you how to feed your baby a bottle in a chest/breastfeeding-friendly manner.

Holy moly,  my boobs are like rocks!  They hurt and I can’t get baby latched on, what can I do?

As  your milk transitions from the low volume first milk, to the higher volume mature milk, it is common for your chest/breasts to feel full and sometimes experience engorgement.  Engorgement occurs when the chest/breasts fill up with so much milk that they become hard and  uncomfortable.  It can sometimes be difficult to get the milk flowing and baby sometimes has a hard time latching on.  

Some tricks to latch your baby on during this time are:

• Pump or hand express for a few moments before latching your baby to soften your chest/breasts and get milk moving

• Use warm compresses or take a shower just before feeding

• Use cold compresses in between feedings to reduce inflammation.  

  If you still  feel incredibly uncomfortable after your baby feeds, you can pump or hand express some additional milk - but it is important to only pump to comfort as you don’t want to send the message to your body to make even more milk.  

  Please be aware that if you begin to run a high fever, have flu-like symptoms, and hot or red spots on your chest/breast, you may be developing a breast infection (mastitis) and it’s important to seek medical attention immediately.  

Why do my nipples hurt and what can I do to heal them?

It’s normal for all parents to feel some initial nipple tenderness and discomfort in the first days and weeks of chest/breastfeeding.  Anything beyond tenderness is a sign that something may not be going right, especially if there is any tissue breakdown, damage, cracks or bleeding.  If you experience any of these, please seek the help of a lactation consultant.  Great healing items are organic coconut oil and hydrogels, or soothing gels, sold by many different companies and available at big box stores.  The best prevention for sore nipples is a good latch. If you are having trouble finding a correct latch, give us a call!

When should I seek help?

There may be times when things aren’t going the way they should.  Our IBCLCs can absolutely help you with all of this!  Some signs that you might need some additional help:

• Damaged/cracked/bleeding nipples.

• Baby isn’t gaining weight/parent’s milk hasn’t “come in” by day 5.

• You suspect your baby is tongue-tied.

• Baby isn’t peeing or stooling the amount that they should.

• Breast infection/Breast abscess

• Oversupply

• Extremely fussy/gassy baby

If you’re unsure about your baby’s latch, milk intake, or feeding patterns, know that you’re not alone—we’re here to help!

The first week of breastfeeding comes with many changes, and it’s completely normal to have questions or concerns along the way. Whether you need guidance on positioning, reassurance about your baby’s feeding cues, or support with any challenges that arise, our team is here to provide the care and expertise you deserve. Schedule a one-on-one appointment (consider a virtual appointment, if you don’t live in San Diego!) with one of our lactation consultants for personalized care and expert advice tailored to your baby’s unique needs.

SDBFC is committed to providing high-quality lactation and functional nutrition consultations to parents in San Diego and beyond. Explore our postpartum, prenatal, and functional nutrition consultations, take a breastfeeding class or attend a workshop.

About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

Is My Baby Getting Enough Milk? A Guide to Breastmilk Intake For the First Year

Published on February 22, 2025

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

One of the most common questions we get asked by clients is, “How much breastmilk does my baby need?” Whether your baby is breastfed, bottle-fed, or combination-fed, their breastmilk (and/or formula) intake stays fairly consistent during the first six months. However, after solids are introduced, it can get a bit confusing to determine how much milk they still need. 

To help clear up the confusion, we’ve put together this month-by-month guide so you can feel confident about your baby’s nutritional needs throughout their first year.

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges.  SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

Month-by-Month Breastmilk Intake Guide

While every baby is unique, their milk intake generally follows a predictable pattern during the first year. These patterns are based on factors like age, weight, growth spurts, and the introduction of solid foods. In the newborn stage, babies eat frequently as their tiny stomachs grow and adjust. By a few months old, their feedings become more efficient and predictable. Around six months, solids are introduced, but breastmilk or formula remains their primary source of nutrition. As babies near their first birthday, they gradually rely more on solid foods, though milk is still an essential part of their diet.

0-2 weeks (what to expect)

• Small stomach capacity and frequent feedings (8-12 times per day).

• Milk increases drastically over the first 2 weeks 

• Average intake (on average): 

• Week 1: 5ml/feeding for Day 1; 10-15ml/feeding for Day 2; 15-30ml/feeding Day 3; 30-45ml/feeding Days 4-7

• Week 2: 60ml/feeding Days 8-10; 60-90ml/feeding Days 11-14

Additional blog articles about this stage:

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During the First Week

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During the Second Week

2 weeks - 12 weeks (what to expect)

• Increased milk production and more predictable feeding patterns - Roughly every 3 hours during the day, cluster feeding in the evening, and then starting to get longer stretches in the middle of the night.

• Growth spurts around 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 6 weeks, and 3 months - more cluster feeding and less sleeping for a few days.

• Average intake (based on weight).  Divide the total daily amount by the number of feedings to figure out how much baby needs per feeding.

• 6lbs - 16oz-20oz per day

• 7lbs - 18oz-22oz per day

• 8lbs - 20oz-24oz per day

• 9lbs - 22oz-26oz per day

• 10lbs - 24oz-28oz per day

• 11lbs - 26oz-30oz per day

• 12lbs - 28oz-32oz per day

• 13lbs+ - 30oz-32oz per day

Additional blog articles about this stage:

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During the Weeks 3-6

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During Months 2-6

3-6 Months (what to expect)

• Quicker chest/breastfeeding and bottle feeding sessions - babies are no nonsense with feeding.  They are more efficient and are very interested in everything that is going on around them.

• Potentially distracted while feeding during the day, which may cause them to wake more at night to feed.  

• Average milk (and/or formula) intake continues to be based on the baby's weight: same as above.

Additional blog articles about this stage:

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During Months 2-6

6-9 Months (what to expect)

• Introduction of solid foods, but breast milk (and/or formula) remains primary nutrition

• Average milk (and/or formula) intake continues to be based on the baby's weight: same as above.

Additional blog articles about this stage:

Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect at 6-9 months

9-12 Months (what to expect)

• Increased independence with solids and possible decrease in nursing frequency

• As babies increase their solids frequency and intake amount, the amount of breastmilk (and/or formula) starts to decrease

• Average intake: 24 oz/day, decreasing slowly to about 12oz/day by 12 months (if the baby is eating 3 full meals with snacks by this age)

• Since breastmilk (or formula) intake varies based on solid food consumption, monitoring your baby's weight can help guide you to determine their milk needs. On average, babies gain 2-3 oz per week at this stage.

Additional blog articles about this stage:

Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect at 9-12 months

If you’re feeling unsure about how much breastmilk (and/or formula) your baby needs or how to balance breastfeeding/chestfeeding with solids, you’re not alone—we’re here to help!

As your baby grows, their milk intake and feeding patterns will continue to evolve, but you don’t have to navigate these changes alone. Whether you’re wondering if your baby is getting enough milk, adjusting to the introduction of solids, or trying to find the right balance between nursing and bottle-feeding, we’re here to support you. Schedule a one-on-one appointment (consider a virtual appointment, if you don’t live in San Diego!) with one of our lactation consultants for personalized care and expert advice tailored to your baby’s unique needs.

SDBFC is committed to providing high-quality lactation and functional nutrition consultations to parents in San Diego and beyond. Explore our postpartum, prenatal, and functional nutrition consultations, take a breastfeeding class or attend a workshop.

About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During months 2 through 6.

Originally published on June 24, 2014; Revised Feb 22, 2025

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

Welcome back to our series, I’ve Had My Baby - Now What?  

Today, let’s talk about what chest/breastfeeding looks like during months 2 through 6. By now, you and your baby have gotten to know each other, and feeding is likely feeling more familiar. This stage brings exciting changes—longer stretches between feedings, more efficient nursing, and a growing baby who is becoming more interactive. But with these changes, you might also have questions about milk supply, feeding routines, or what’s normal as your baby becomes more active. Below, we’ll explore what to expect during this stage, how to adapt to your baby’s evolving needs, and when to seek support if you need it. 

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges.  SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

What does normal chest/breastfeeding look like in months 2-6?  How often should my baby be eating, and how long should feedings take?

This can vary from baby to baby - the most important thing is that your baby is having lots of wet and dirty diapers and gaining weight appropriately.  Some babies may have started taking in more at each feeding, and spacing them out more, while some may still be eating every 2-3 hours.  If you’re lucky, your baby may have dropped a feeding or two at night, and may make up for it during the day.  Other babies become much more distracted during daytime feedings around 4 months, so continuing those nighttime feedings are crucial for baby to get enough over a 24 hour period.

How much weight should my baby be gaining at this age? Is their weight gain expected to slow during this time?

Around 4 months, babies weight gain does start to slow down.  Up until 4 months, babies should be gaining about 6-8 ounces per week.  At 4 months, this drops to 4-5 oz per week, and then again at 6 months, when we expect baby to gain about 2-3oz per week.  This is important for parents to know so that they don’t worry if they see their baby’s weight gain slow around 4 months of age.  Make sure that your pediatrician is using the WHO charts for weight gain, which is for chest/breastfed babies.  

Suddenly my baby seems too distracted to eat!  Is this normal, and what can I do to get my baby to feed better?

At around 4 months of age, babies start to learn that there is a whole big world out there - and suddenly, *everything* is more exciting than chest/breastfeeding!  Dogs barking, a ceiling fan, someone else in the room. Some ways to help your baby focus while nursing are:

• Feed baby in a quiet and dark room

• Nurse in a carrier

• Let your baby play with something soft and crinkly while nursing.  

  Also, this is definitely NOT a time to start night weaning or sleep training, as these distracted kiddos often need those nighttime feedings to keep gaining weight appropriately.  Also, it’s important to remember that this is really normal behavior - and usually fades around 6 months of age.

I’m getting ready to go back to work - how can I make sure that I’ll be able to pump what my baby needs when I’m away from him/her?

This can be a stressful time for nursing parents - there are definitely some things you can do to help protect your chest/breastfeeding relationship when you return to work.

• Know your rights! Federal law protects your right to pump at work for a reasonable amount of time and in a private space.  

• Do some research ahead of time and talk to your human resources department - find out where the pumping area is, how close it is to your desk or workspace, what equipment you’ll need.  

• Talk to your caregiver about paced bottle feeding and how much milk your baby actually needs per bottle

• Read up on ways to help maximize your output while you’re pumping at work.

My baby still wakes often to eat at night, even at 6 months of age - is this normal behavior?

It is absolutely normal behavior!  By this stage, babies may be sleeping for longer stretches in the first part of the night, but may still wake after that to feed.  By this age, a baby needs anywhere from 28-32 oz in 24 hours and if your baby is too distracted to feed well during the day, they may wake more at night to make up for it.  If you hear your baby gulping during feedings at night, or your baby won’t settle without nursing, it is very likely that they still need the feedings throughout the night.  If the frequent wakings are taking a toll on your mental sanity, co-sleeping and side-lying chest/breastfeeding are great ways to get some extra rest.  If you are uncomfortable with co-sleeping, you can set your alarm for 15 minutes after beginning to chest/breastfeed your baby, and then wake up and place your baby back into their own bed.  If your baby is waking up *very* frequently, every hour, and is very uncomfortable and difficult to soothe, it could be something else that’s causing the restlessness - possibly gut discomfort and/or a sensitivity to something in your diet. Definitely reach out to us for assistance!

My 4-month-old baby will not sleep!  What’s happened to my baby that used to sleep??

The 4-month-sleep regression is a real thing and can wreak havoc on a mom’s sanity.  At 4 months, babies are going through huge developmental milestones.  They have suddenly become aware of all that is going on around them and their excitement about this can interrupt their sleep.  It’s important to keep in mind that this is temporary stage, you will sleep again…. we promise!

My baby is approaching 6 months and I’m starting to think about solids.  How will I know that my baby is ready?

It is definitely recommended to wait until your baby is at least six months of age before offering solid foods – even longer if your baby doesn’t seem ready.  Some of the signs of readiness are being able to sit up on their own unassisted and losing their tongue thrust reflex, so that they don’t automatically push food out of their mouth.  Another sign is when the baby has developed their “pincer grasp”, which is when they can use their fingers to pick up objects.

When I do start solids, what is an appropriate amount to start out with?

Your baby will need a very small amount at the beginning - only about a tablespoon once per day.  The first food doesn’t have to be a grain cereal, either - as many doctors have previously recommended.  Avocados are a perfect first food for your baby.  Remember the saying “food before one is just for fun” – your baby should be getting their total nutrition from your milk (and/or formula) – so the solids you offer them now are just for practice.   As the baby gets older, you can start to add in additional meals and snacks.

How can I be sure that my milk supply won’t suffer once I start feeding my baby solids?

The rule for solids is always – milk first, then food.  You should always chest/breastfeed first and then offer your baby solids.  You want to be sure that baby is still taking a full feeding at chest/breast to both ensure he/she is getting all the calories and nutrition he/she needs, as well as maintaining your milk supply.  If you start to replace chest/breastfeeding sessions with solid meals, you most likely will notice a dip in your supply.

Struggling with your 2-6mo baby’s distracted feedings, frequent night waking, or slow weight gain? We’ve got you covered!

It can be incredibly frustrating when you're unsure if your baby is getting enough milk, especially when dealing with feeding distractions or interrupted sleep. If you're concerned about your baby’s growth, feeding patterns, or just need more confidence in your breastfeeding journey, we’re here to help. Schedule a one-on-one appointment (consider a virtual appointment, if you don’t live in San Diego!) with one of our lactation consultants for personalized care and expert advice tailored to your baby’s unique needs.

SDBFC is committed to providing high-quality lactation and functional nutrition consultations to parents in San Diego and beyond. Explore our postpartum, prenatal, and functional nutrition consultations, take a breastfeeding class or attend a workshop.

About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

Breastfeeding the Older Baby: What to Expect at 9-12 Months

Originally published on May 1, 2016; Revised Feb 22, 2025

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

Welcome back to our blog series, Breastfeeding the Older Baby – What to Expect.

Today, let's talk about what to expect when chest/breastfeeding your older baby between 9 and 12 months. As your little one becomes more mobile and curious about the world, nursing can start to look a bit different—sometimes acrobatic, sometimes distracted, but still an important source of nourishment and comfort. Parents often wonder how breastmilk fits into their baby’s expanding diet and whether changes in feeding patterns are normal. Below, we’ll explore what to expect during this stage, what’s typical, and when you might want to reach out for support.

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges.  SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

What does chest/breastfeeding look like in months 9-12? How often should my baby be eating and how long should feedings take?

Breastmilk (and/or formula) continues to be your baby’s primary source of nutrition until his/her first birthday. Some babies will continue to space out their nursing sessions as they approach this milestone birthday, nursing 4-5 times during the day, and once or more during the night. As your little one begins to explore the tastes and textures of more solid foods and consume more of them at each sitting,  you may notice your little one beginning to nurse less frequently in response to their increased intake of solid foods. As long as your baby is continuing to have five or more wet diapers each day, gains an average of 2-3oz per week, and seems satisfied and content after nursing sessions, then your little one is most likely getting enough nutrition while chest/breastfeeding.

 

When will my baby begin to drop his/her nighttime feeding sessions and sleep through the night?

Such a great question, and one that’s frequently on parents’ minds! When will my baby sleep longer at night? The short answer is - every baby is different. Babies wake throughout the night for varying reasons, including hunger, a need for comfort, a disruption in their sleep cycle, a need for a diaper change, sickness, teething, etc. Chest/breastfeeding often meets more than one of baby’s needs, so it’s easy to fall into the routine of nursing your little one back to sleep. There is absolutely nothing wrong with responding to your little one’s needs by nursing them! If you are happy with your nighttime routine, no need to make significant changes in order to cope with outside pressure and recommendations to “train” your baby to sleep longer at night. That being said, if you find yourself becoming frustrated with nighttime wakings and overtired during the day due to lack of sleep at night, then it might be time to take a closer look at your nighttime routine to make a plan for improving your quality of sleep.

I’ve heard people mention teaching chest/breastfeeding manners to older babies. How does that work?

It’s never too early to start teaching your little one age-appropriate manners. Just as we prompt our toddlers for “the magic word” when they ask for something, older babies can learn to be polite when chest/breastfeeding. Teaching your little one a few basic signs from American Sign Language can be very beneficial in setting the stage for chest/breastfeeding manners. The signs for milk, more, and please are fairly basic and many babies pick up on them quickly. Once your little one has mastered the sign for milk, you can calmly remind them to sign milk when hungry instead of pulling your shirt down or crying out in frustration. Positive reinforcement will go a long way to reinforce the idea that you would like baby to sign milk when hungry rather than clawing at your chest. Baby will also be calmer and happier, seeing you sign milk, showing them you hear and understand their need and are going to chest/breastfeed them soon.

 

My baby has been refusing to nurse, could he/she be self-weaning?

If your baby has been refusing to chest/breastfeed for several nursing sessions or days in a row, then it’s more likely that you and your little one are experiencing a nursing strike, rather than self-weaning. It is very uncommon for a baby to self-wean before their first birthday. As we have said before, babies need milk to be their primary source of nutrition right up until their first birthday. Also, self-weaning is usually a gradual process, where as a nursing strike is characterized by a sudden and complete disinterest and refusal to chest/breastfeed. Nursing strikes are common in older babies and can be in response to teething, distraction, illness, bottle-preference, and other developmental milestones. Tips for surviving a nursing strike and encouraging baby to nurse again are:

• Always offer breastmilk before any solids during baby’s first year of life. If baby won’t nurse, you can offer baby expressed milk in a sippy cup, to ensure baby’s nutritional needs are being met.

• Limit or eliminate bottles and pacifiers. Only use bottles when baby is separated from you and then put baby back to chest/breast when baby is with you.

• If distractibility seems to be playing a role in baby’s refusal to nurse, try wearing a nursing necklace to keep baby’s attention focused on nursing. You can also try giving baby a small toy to hold during feeding sessions, nursing in a quiet room, and nursing baby in a baby carrier.

If you feel your milk supply has decreased, and this has led to the nursing strike, then it is a good idea to make an appointment with a Lactation Consultant to come up with a chest/breastfeeding plan to help you increase your supply and meet baby’s needs moving forward.

If you’re wondering how breastfeeding will change as your baby becomes more independent, you’re in good company!

Every baby transitions through this stage a little differently, and it’s completely normal to have questions about nursing frequency, distracted feedings, or how breastmilk fits into your little one’s growing diet. Whether you need reassurance, tips for managing changes, or support in meeting your breastfeeding goals, we’re here to guide you every step of the way. Schedule a one-on-one appointment (consider a virtual appointment, if you don’t live in San Diego!) with one of our lactation consultants for personalized care and expert advice tailored to your baby’s unique needs.

SDBFC is committed to providing high-quality lactation and functional nutrition consultations to parents in San Diego and beyond. Explore our postpartum, prenatal, and functional nutrition consultations, take a breastfeeding class or attend a workshop.

 About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect at 6-9 months

Originally published on March 9, 2016

Revised October 5, 2024 

Author: Robin Kaplan, M.Ed, IBCLC, FNC

Wondering what breastfeeding/chestfeeding look like when your baby is 6-9 months? As our little ones continue to grow physically {begin to roll over, sit up, crawl} and developmentally {sleep longer stretches at night and interact more with the world around them}, we notice the impact of these changes on their feeding patterns.

In this blog series, Breastfeeding the Older Baby - What to Expect and How to Adjust, we will answer some of the most common questions and concerns we hear from parents, as they navigate breastfeeding/chestfeeding a 6-9 month old. What are some normal behaviors to expect from a baby this age and how can you tell if there’s a challenge that you should seek lactation support for?

ABOUT SDBFC

The San Diego Breastfeeding Center was established in 2009 by Robin Kaplan, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Functional Nutritionist, and parent.  Her vision was to create a judgment-free, inclusive support system for families navigating infant feeding challenges. 

SDBFC offers a wide range of one-on-one breastfeeding, infant feeding, and nutrition consultations - as well as classes, support groups, online articles, and social media - making it your one-stop-shop for all things infant feeding!

What does breastfeeding/chestfeeding look like in months 6-9?

How often should a baby be breastfeeding and how long should feedings take?

At 6-9 months, breastmilk is still a vital source of nutrition, even as your baby starts to explore solid foods. The frequency and length of breastfeeding/chestfeeding sessions may vary depending on your baby’s appetite and routine, but here are some general guidelines:

• Breastfeeding frequency: Typically, babies breastfeed/chestfeed around 5-6 times per day at this stage, with some babies still nursing in the middle of the night, as well. 

• Duration of feedings: Babies at this age can be very effective at removing a lot of milk in a very short period of time.  Each nursing session may last anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes (on average), depending on your baby’s efficiency, interest, and when they last fed. 

• Feeding positions: As your baby becomes increasingly mobile, you may notice that they may want to move from the cradle hold to sitting or standing or some variety of nursing gymnastics.  Handing your baby something soft or crinkly to play with while nursing may help them focus and stay in one position until they are finished feeding.

My baby is eating solid food now, how does this impact our breastfeeding/chestfeeding routine?

Introducing solid foods to your baby’s diet can shift your breastfeeding/chestfeeding routine, but your milk continues to be the main source of nutrition. Here’s how solids may impact your feeding routine and how to protect your milk supply in the process:

• Complementary, not replacement: Solids are meant to complement your milk at this stage, not replace it. Continue to breastfeed/chestfeed (or offer a bottle of your pumped milk) before solid meals to maintain milk intake.

• Keep serving sizes of solid foods small: The goal for solids between 6-9 months is to familiarize your baby with different tastes and textures, while also developing hand-eye coordination, as your little one learns to self-feed.  Keeping serving sizes small will ensure that your baby will not fill up on solids and continues to take around 30oz a day of your milk by breastfeeding and/or bottle. 

Ensuring milk production: To keep your milk supply stable, continue breastfeeding/chestfeeding on demand and ensure regular milk removal through nursing or pumping.

How much weight should my baby be gaining at this age?

After six months of age, normal weight gain for a breastfed/chestfed baby is 2-3oz per week. Weight gain slows during this time as babies begin to roll over, scoot, crawl, and walk, burning more calories by being more active throughout the day. If you are ever concerned about your baby’s weight gain patterns, you can reference theWHO growth charts, which were created specifically for breastfed/chestfed infants.

My baby keeps biting me while breastfeeding/chestfeeding.  What can I do to stop this?

If your baby is biting while breastfeeding/chestfeeding, it can be painful, but there are ways to gently prevent and correct this behavior. Here are some tips to help stop biting during feedings:

• Watch for signs: Pay attention to cues that your baby may be done feeding or about to bite, such as decreasing swallows, adjusting their latch, or giving you a smirk like they are about to do something to get your attention. If you see one of these signs, immediately unlatch your baby before they have an opportunity to sink their teeth into you.

• End the feeding calmly: If your baby bites, immediately stop the feeding and calmly but firmly say "no biting" or "that hurts." This helps your baby understand the connection between biting and the end of feeding.

• Offer alternatives: Babies may bite when teething or exploring new sensations. Offer a cold teething toy or a chilled cloth before or after nursing to soothe sore gums.

• Stay consistent: Respond the same way each time your baby bites, using calm but firm guidance. With repetition, your baby will begin to understand that biting interrupts feeding.

If you still have questions about breastfeeding/chestfeeding or offering solids to your 6-9 month old, we are just a consult away!

As your baby continues to grow and develop, their feeding patterns will naturally change, but navigating these transitions doesn't have to be stressful. Whether you're adjusting to a new breastfeeding/chestfeeding schedule, introducing solids, or dealing with challenges like biting, it's important to feel confident in your approach. If you have further questions or concerns about feeding your 6-9 month old, or need guidance on maintaining your milk supply, the San Diego Breastfeeding Center is here to help. Book a one-on-one appointment with one of our lactation consultants today for personalized support tailored to you and your baby’s needs.

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About the Author

Robin Kaplan has been an IBCLC since 2009, the same year that she opened up the San Diego Breastfeeding Center.  Robin was the founding host of the Boob Group podcast and published her first book, Latch: a Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage in 2018.  Melding her passions for supporting lactating parents and holistic health, Robin finished her Functional Nutrition Certification in 2023. In her free time, she enjoys hanging out with her two teenage boys, hiking, traveling, weaving, cooking, and searching for the best chai latte.

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Welcome back to our new series, I’ve Had My Baby - Now What?  This is a guide with basic information to help you navigate the first days, weeks, and months of breastfeeding your new baby.  

Today we’d like to talk about weeks 3 through 6 of your baby’s life, and what breastfeeding looks like.  What can you expect for normal behavior from your new baby, and when do you know there’s a problem that you should seek professional help for?

What does normal breastfeeding look like in weeks 3-6?  How often should my baby be eating, and how long should feedings take?

It’s extremely common for babies at this age to still want to feed frequently, every 2-3 hours.  Some *may* become more efficient and take in more at feedings and start to space them out a bit more, but don’t fear if your baby hasn’t done this yet!  Feedings may start to speed up as mom’s milk volume is higher and baby has had good practice breastfeeding, but again, don’t worry if your baby still feeds at the breast for as long as he/she did in the early weeks.  It can take some time for mom and baby to really get their groove and you may still be working out some kinks during weeks 3 through 6.

How much weight should my baby be gaining at this age?  How will I know if he/she is getting enough when I’m not seeing my pediatrician as frequently for weight checks?

Up to 4 months of age, we expect babies to gain .5-1 oz/day, or 4-7 ounces a week.  There are many ways other than weight to be sure that your baby is getting enough milk.  If your baby is having plenty of wet and soiled diapers each day, and generally seems content after feedings for two hours or more (outside of growth spurts and cluster feeding periods), you can feel good that he/she is probably getting enough.  If you want a little more concrete evidence, a great way to track your baby’s weight is by attending a free weekly breastfeeding support group.  There will often be a scale there to weigh your baby, you can do test weights to see how much baby is taking during that feeding, get help from a lactation consultant or educator, and, the BEST part, meet and connect with other moms.

Can I give my baby a bottle now?  If so, who should give it and how often should they do so?

 Once breastfeeding has been established, weeks 3-5 are the perfect time to introduce a bottle to your baby if you’d like them to take one.  It’s normally best that someone other than mom gives the baby the bottle, as babies often associate mom with breastfeeding and may refuse a bottle from her.  Plus, often times, partners and grandparents have been waiting for their moment to participate in the feeding of the baby.  We recommend that mom start pumping after week 3, once a day or so, to start to save up milk for that first bottle.  2-3oz is an appropriate amount to start with.  Be sure that the bottle is fed to the baby in a breastfeeding friendly manner.  If mom is going back to work, we recommend that baby receives a bottle on a somewhat regular basis, a few times a week, so that he/she remains familiar with it.  Plus, mom should pump every time baby receives a bottle to maintain her milk supply.

My baby is inconsolable for a few hours in the evenings.  Why is this happening and what can I do?

Many babies have a “witching hour”, or as I like to call it, “an unhappy hour”.  The term is a bit misleading as the behavior normally lasts for more than an hour!  It occurs most frequently in the late afternoon/evening hours.  Babies are often fussier than normal during this time, and want to eat often.  And while they want to feed often, they may pull off more frequently as well.  There are a number of theories as to what causes this fussiness at this time.  They may be feeding often to “tank up” on calories before taking a long sleep (sounds wonderful!).  They may be overstimulated from their day and having a hard time winding themselves down.  This is often a busy time for the entire household, as partners are home from work and older siblings may be home from school.  Best thing that you can do during this time is to offer the breast often.  Learning to nurse in a baby carrier can be a lifesaver as it will allow you to be hands-free while the baby is snuggled, fed, and comforted.

How will I know if my baby is colicky?  Is this the same as the ‘witching hour?’

Many parents confuse normal fussy behavior for colic.  Colic is defined as 3 hours or more of crying, 3 or more times a week, for 3 or more weeks in a row.  It normally resolves itself around month 4.  If your baby’s crying looks like this, he/she may have colic.  There are no definitive cause for colic, but it could be related to gut issues due to food sensitivities.  The “witching hour” is the period of time of day when your baby may seem unusually fussy, normally lasting for a couple of hours. This behavior peaks around 6 weeks and then often starts to fade.

If I am still having a challenging time building up my milk supply at this time, have I missed the window for increasing my milk supply?

Not at all!  Depending on the reason for mom’s low supply, there are plenty of things that can help boost  supply at this stage.  The most important thing is to learn why mom is struggling with her milk supply.  As always, lots of good breast stimulation is best - either from a baby or a hospital grade pump. There are also herbs and medications that are available that can help boost supply as well.

There may be times when things aren’t going the way they should.  If you find this, please contact an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant to help you.  Some signs that you might need some additional help:

• Sore, cracked, bruised, or bleeding nipples.

• Baby is gaining less than 4oz per week.

• You suspect your baby may be tongue-tied.

• Painful, recurrent engorgement.

• Oversupply.

• Baby is having problems stooling.

• Overly gassy, fussy, or colicky baby.

• Breast infection - mastitis, abscess, or thrush.

For  more information about what normal breastfeeding looks like in the first few weeks, check out our article,What Every Mom Should Know About Breastfeeding During the Early Weeks, which highlights our brand new brochure!  Also, check out Ashley as she discusses more tips and tricks for breastfeeding during weeks 3-6 on the Boob Group episode, New Mom Breastfeeding Manual: Weeks 3-6.

I’ve Had My Baby - Now What? Breastfeeding During the Second Week

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Today we’d like to talk about the second week of your baby’s life, and what breastfeeding looks like.  What can you expect for normal behavior from your new baby, and when do you know there’s a problem that you should seek professional help for?

Now that my milk has increased in volume, what should feedings look like?  How much does a baby need at each feeding and how long should it take?

Most moms will see their milk change from the first low-volume colostrum to the fuller-volume mature milk somewhere between day 3 and day 5.  So by week 2, there is often more milk for baby to take per each feeding.  However, in the early days of the second week, a baby only needs about 1.5 ounces per feeding.  By the end of the second week, the baby will need 2-2.5 ounces per feeding.  Feeding length should still be determined by baby and when baby seems satisfied, but most little ones at this age should be able to get a full feeding in 30 - 60 minutes.

How much weight should my baby gain in week 2 of life? When should they regain their birth weight?

It’s normal for all babies to lose some of their birth weight in the first few days of life.  Once mom’s milk transitions to the fuller volume milk between day 3 and day 5, baby should gain ½ - 1 oz per day.  Most babies who are breastfeeding well will reach their birth weight by 10-14 days.  If your baby doesn’t regain their birth weight by 14 days, it might be a good idea to seek the help of a lactation consultant.

My baby seems to prefer one of my breasts over the other, and even has a difficult time latching onto the other one - is this normal and what can I do?

It is common for babies to prefer one side over the other.  They have often been lying in one position in utero, which can cause tightness in their necks and jaws.  Sometimes a long and difficult labor can affect the baby’s ability to latch onto one side - if the pushing section was long and baby was in birth canal for many hours - the compressions to his head may affect him in this way.  Often babies will work it out in the first few weeks, but if your baby continues to struggle, we often recommend body work for the baby, in the form of Craniosacral Therapy or Chiropractic care.

My baby starts choking shortly after starting to breastfeed.  What is causing this and what can I do?

Some moms find that their milk “lets down” very quickly.  When a baby begins to feed, the stimulation of the nipple releases hormones for mom to signal her body to “eject” the milk from the milk ducts.  When this happens quickly and forcefully, sometimes the sudden flow can take the baby by surprise and they may come off the breast coughing and sputtering.  If all is going well, the baby should learn to manage this within the first couple of weeks.  Feeding in a laid-back position can also be very helpful to slow down your let down. If your baby continues to struggle with a forceful letdown, it could indicate that there is something happening anatomically that is preventing him from being able to adapt.  This would be a good time to visit with a lactation consultant.

My 2 week-old baby is suddenly famished!  He went from eating every 2-3 hours to wanting to eat *constantly*!  He never seems satisifed and is fussy at the breast. Does this mean my milk supply is decreasing?

All babies go through a growth spurt around 2 weeks of age. The behavior above describes what a baby will act like during these growth spurts. It’s a natural occurrence to help build your milk supply to help keep up with the baby’s increasing needs.  Growth spurts usually last 48-72 hours.  As long as your baby is continuing to have plenty of wet and dirty diapers, there is no reason to think that your milk supply is faltering.

There may be times when things aren’t going the way they should.  If you find this, please contact an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant to help you.  Some signs that you might need some additional help:

• Sore, cracked, bruised, or bleeding nipples.

• Baby is still well under birth weight near 14 days of life.

• You suspect your baby may be tongue-tied.

• Painful, recurrent engorgement.

• Oversupply.

• Baby is having problems stooling.

• Overly gassy, fussy, or colicky baby.

• Breast infection - mastitis, abscess, or thrush.

For  more information about what normal breastfeeding looks like in the first few weeks, check out our article, What Every Mom Should Know About Breastfeeding During the Early Weeks, which highlights our brand new brochure!